We all have some people in our lives that can be considered “difficult.” These people seem to go to extraordinary lengths to be difficult or maybe they come by this naturally. Regardless, we all recognize them and unfortunately, there is not just one kind of “difficult” person that we have to contend with every day. There is the bossy co-worker, the controlling family member, the annoying busybody, the egoistical superior…and the list goes on. We know that they are not good for our mental or physical health. Dealing with difficult people and maintaining these ongoing relations is actually detrimental to our health.
These difficult people can make our lives really challenging, unpleasant and even miserable. That is, if we let them. We can deal with difficult people in a number of ways. Each of us has found our way to deal with these people – some less effective than others. A few turn to our faith believing “Dealing with difficult people not only tests our faith in God, but it also puts our witness on display.” Several let their aggravations roll off like water off a duck’s back. Others devise elaborate avoidance schemes or barbed comebacks. What can you do if the person in question is a family member, a co-worker, or someone you really can’t eliminate from your life?
As a well-meaning individual, you may be tempted to try to change them. Most have learned that this will not happen. In fact, they often become more difficult and more demanding and you only become more frustrated. There are hundreds, if not thousands of books written with various strategies and tips to end the emotional tug-of-war we all seem to struggle with. There are professionals that say take this approach, or react this way, turn the spotlight on you, stand up to them, etc. We must remind ourselves that every strength is a weakness and every weakness is strength.
Join us November 7th, at 11:30 a.m. at the Sizzler Restaurant (1461 Rimpau Avenue [MAP]), where the Greater Corona Valley Chamber of Commerce in partnership with the City of Corona, is pleased to present “Dealing with Difficult People” as part of the Women’s Leadership Luncheon series. Our special guest is Robin Goins-Cornell, a college professor teaching psychology, sociology, business and career development as well as an experienced executive coach and trainer.
Ms. Goins-Cornell works with executives and managers in transition, and coaching them on life and career management strategies (RobinRGoins.com). She has over 30 years of experience in business and management, having worked in corporate construction and home building industries for the majority of that time. As Executive Director of Smooth Transition Inc., Robin oversees the educational development elements of the program and works with students and universities on ground and online to provide the best educational and vocational training and options available for those within the program and to ensure that the curriculum is of quality and is meeting the needs of the participants.
Tickets for the luncheon are on sale now at the Greater Corona Valley Chamber of Commerce. Luncheons are meant for women interested in personal growth and not restricted to members only. For more information, feel free to contact Denea Breitenbucher at (951) 737-3350 or Karen Spiegel at (951) 833-8136.